Thoughts about missing someone

Having people in your life that you trust, love and you would gladly spend every second of every day -okay that may be too much but you get the point- with them is a blessing. However, this blessing can turn into a curse when such an important person has to leave. It doesn't matter if you'll be apart only for a few days or for a long time, because either way you'll miss him or her like crazy (okay, I guess that if you have to be apart for months or even years, it is worse). Thinking about him and wishing he was here will become a routine. This can apply to romantic partners, friends and family.

If there is a way for you to go find him, do it. You may have doubts, like "what if he doesn't like my surprise?" or "what if he wants this alone time?" or "what if he thinks that I don't trust him and I want to control him?" or "what if he thinks of me as clingy and totally dependent on him?" or "what if he doesn't want me there?". I can think of even more excuses but you should actually do it. If I were you and I were not sure about his reaction, I would ask him or I would try to find an excuse to go close to him. Of course every case is different but if you are dying to see this person and if you are certain that he feels the same way, go to him and I guarantee that you'll have the best time of your lives.

However, if it isn't possible for you to visit him because he is way too far or for whatever reason, there are ways to alleviate the pain of missing him. Firstly, you can skype or facetime. I know that it is not perfect but it is the closest to the real human interaction, as you can see the other person's face and you can hear his voice. Secondly, I would recommend to do things that make you happy and help you forget even for a little while how much you miss him. Go out with your friends, go to the cinema, take up a hobby, etc. At the end of the day though your mind will go back to all the memories that you have with this person and that is precious. So, don't hesitate to reread your conversations, reminisce and just hope that it will not be long until you see him again and you can create some more memories. 

But what if the person that you can't stop thinking about is a jerk? Well, that is hard as well, because he doesn't deserve your feelings and tears. It will be difficult for you to stop loving and missing him but you have to realize that you are a beautiful person that deserves someone better, who can love you for who you truly are despite of your flaws. I do believe that time is the best doctor, because as the time goes by your wounds will be healed and you'll be able to smile again, to have a good time and to meet new, interesting and worthy people.

So, no matter how much it hurts I guess that we should be grateful that we have people in our lives that are worth missing them.