Thoughts about a scary encounter
Happy New Year 😄
I am going to start this year's publishing with a kind of sad and serious post but I hope that it will actually help both me and you with our 2018 resolutions. It is something that happened to me in 2017 but I think that I will remember it forever.
On a Sunday, I came across a friend of mine at a bus stop. We got on the bus and we started talking. We were actually standing near the doors and we were holding our luggages, as we both happended to return from our hometown, where we had visited our families. The bus made a stop at poor neighbourhood outside the city and I guess a mother with her son and daughter got off the bus. As they were getting off, the boy put his hand inside my coat's pocket and he pushed me out of the bus. I got really scared and I shrieked but I quickly got on the bus again. Then I turned around and I saw the little girl spitting at the closing doors. And not only that but also she threw little rocks at the vehicle.
I am a bit ashamed but I have to admit that these two young kids scared the hell out of me. Yes, a twenty year old, full grown woman got scared by two ten-year-olds. But as I am thinking about it, my fear is completely natural and whoever was in my shoes would feel the same way. First of all, when a stranger not only invades your personal space but also pushes you and forces you to move involuntarily, you start to worry that he or she will hurt you physically. Second of all, the thought of how these kids will be and how they will behave as adults can send shivers to every sane person. They smiled and they had fun by pushing and spitting at people. I am just worried that children that behave like that may become criminals as adults.
I know that it seems like it but I'm not writing this post in order to criticize and chide these two kids. I actually wanted to raise your awareness. Okay, in my case, because I was shocked I didn't see the reaction of the woman that accompanied the children and I assume that she is their mother. However, if you do have young people around you either if they are your kids, your siblings, your cousins, your acquaintances, or your whatever, try to teach them good manners. Teaching children what is right and what is wrong or if you please what is proper and what is not either by telling them or by setting the example yourself can make them respectful people with principles and morals. And as we live in an organized society, every person has the obligation to respect the other members.
So, when you are around kids, always remember that your sayings and your actions have an impact on them and try to contribute to the raising of polite and moral human beings.
Along general lines , i agree with your point that each person should be particularly careful regarding his behaviour towards the younger members [children] of his closer [as well as wider ] family [and even to random ones ] . It goes without saying i think ,that even a seemingly insignificant [ in terms of duration and repeatability ] unappropriate interaction could potentialy have an overwhelmingly detrimental influence over people who havent crystalized yet [because of their age ] their own personality , in the light of the underlying danger of misinterprating and consequently ''categorizing'' this attitude as something which worths to be imitated ........... However , the cornerstone of the whole ''learning children to act in a socially acceptable way '' process ,is in my opinion their parents [ in most cases their first '' heros '' who inevitably affect them indelibly for the rest of their lifes ]. Under this framework ,[ given of course that you were right when it comes to the assumption that the woman you mentioned was indeed their mother ] it emerges as a first [ even naive ] conclusion that this person was completely unadequate to fulfill one of her fundamental duties . To effectively teach her children having a minimum of respect to all the other society members and apart from them even to her .............I refered the word '' naive '' in order to indicate the possibility my beforementioned thinking orientation to be utterly problematic and false in the sense that it is perhaps unattainable [ or at least more than difficult ] for a mother to '' cultivate '' respect to her infants when , ever since the first day of their life they have experienced any possible expression of contempt while they dont have even necessary for their survival [ and their decency ] things..........i really dont know ........its very sad to think both the situation of those marginalised people as well as of those who have experienced incidents like yours or even more traumatic......
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you that I -and I guess a lot of people- can't even imagine what the people in my story -or others like them- have gone through. I just hope that something good comes out of this story and people will teach their children to be polite and to respect others no matter their looks, their race, their financial state, their beliefs, their gender, because I feel that this will make the world we live in a better place.
DeleteThank you very much for sharing your opinion.